Heartbreak Lessons: Who doesn’t want to live happily ever after? I know I do. I know that most of us, even those who seem to look at love and relationships in a cynical light, dream of creating our very own happy ever-after with the person we are in . . . read more

Gay Marriage: Apparently I am not a Family Member The pain of losing Hugo was hard enough. It was worse because I never got to say goodbye. You see Hugo had had a wife and four children. When his wife Grace had an affair, he was 47. At that point . . . read more

Old gay, is it too late to come out? One of the more pathetic signs in a nightclub is that of an ageing “queen” enthusiastically dancing, getting lots of friendly banter but no offers to go home. They really are nice people but the time for the sexual game is . . . read more

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Church Community: I Was Abused by a Church Elder Who is Now Preaching Against Sodomy There have been rumors as far back as I can remember. People have been talking about this elder. The last time was a young man who was two years older than me talking about what . . . read more

Harrowing Experience: Denied Asylum and Denounced – How I was Double-Crossed by the Immigration Authorities I will never forget the day that the announcement was made. I had been in the detention center for 13 months and was going crazy with worry. This was no longer a life and I . . . read more

We are lying to each other and both know that we are doing it. Worst of all…we are lying to ourselves. Even my mum has been roped into this crazy game. Having a gay child can do things to families and we are all right in the middle of . . . read more

I am planning to have a secret gay wedding : even though I know it is illegal in my country I will call myself Jemah to protect the innocent. I was born in Kenya to a demonstrably staunch catholic family. To say that my upbringing was austere and severe is to . . . read more

Fine weather friends: Good riddance to bad rubbish I consider myself to be something of an expert on “fine weather friends”. My mum used to talk about them from the time I was a kid and they have passed through my life. I just did not reckon that Andre would . . . read more