2017

At the Crossroads of Gay Identity Politics. It is an opinion but it is causing me grief. In vain, I have tried to tell my LGBT friends that they are wasting their time going after an institution that is already past its sell-by date. Every day we are hearing . . . read more

Life Under a Color-Conscious Justice System Let me get this out of the way to begin with. I am guilty as sin. I was in possession of an armed without permission. I committed a burglary and served 8 years for it. Pleading no-contest did not save me much . . . read more

Fear of the Strange and Unknown - It is the stigma that dare not speak its name. We have reached the stage at which HIV infection is not an automatic death sentence. The presence of ARVs means that the wasted bodies of victims are no longer an integral aspect . . . read more

Gay Marriage: Apparently I am not a Family Member The pain of losing Hugo was hard enough. It was worse because I never got to say goodbye. You see Hugo had had a wife and four children. When his wife Grace had an affair, he was 47. At that point . . . read more

Gay Conversion Nightmare - We Did all the Wrong Things It seems extraordinary to some who do not know the full story, but I do not blame my father at all for what happened to me. How could he know that he too was a victim of a quack? Right from . . . read more

An open letter to my mother: True personal acceptance and love cannot be conditional Cutting my hair was my first step towards personal acceptance. Cutting my hair consisted of months upon months of admiring various cuts and colors, before finally working up the courage to do it, despite . . . read more

Fine weather friends: Good riddance to bad rubbish I consider myself to be something of an expert on “fine weather friends”. My mum used to talk about them from the time I was a kid and they have passed through my life. I just did not reckon that Andre would . . . read more

Tom Boy: A “Butch” Straight Woman’s Story I will not repeat the names that I was called at school because I actually think they are too offensive for public consumption. I have had many years of living this dual existence. On one hand I am a very powerful, independent . . . read more

Probation Officer Warned Me About My Prison Lover, Life After Incarceration Let us first get the first things out. I am a drug addict and have gotten into a whole load of problems because of my addiction. That is how I landed in prison the first place. I was so . . . read more